Couples who work well together master the art and skill of communication. They learn the rules for communicating with each other in order to avoid a free-for-all, which can lead to resentment and anger. Six essential speech acts that allow people to communicate clearly and concisely. They are assertions, assessments, declarations, requests, offers, and promises. • Assertions. An assertion is a positive statement or declaration, such as “Albany is the capital of New York.” • Assessments. Assessments are opinions and judgments. • Declarations. These are statements made with conviction, which bring about change and a shift in the current reality. An example of a declaration is an umpire’s call at a baseball game or the declaration you are going to switch to an all-cash practice. • Requests. These are attempts to coordinate some type of action to bring about a satisfactory conclusion. Asking for a report is a request; so is asking to have your dry cleaning picked up. • Offers. In an offer, a person puts himself forward for others, such as offering to help a friend move or assist with overload at the front desk. • Promises. Promises are commitments to do something, such as to love, honor, and cherish, or to complete a report by a requested due date.
Harmony and Oneness in Spirit, Soul and Body=Agreement If you do not agree, agree to disagree until you can pick things up again to come in agreement. Either partner, however strong they may feel about moving forward, ought not to move unless they are in agreement. In business decisions in the bedroom or any finances or living condition what ever, you need to be in agreement if you are not in agreement and one chooses to move forward without the other you are guaranteed disaster is around the corner. AMOS 3:3 Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so? (NIV) Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction? (NLT) Do two walk together, unless they have agreed to meet? (ESV) Do two men walk together unless they have made an appointment? (NASB) Can two walk together, except they be agreed? (KJV) Do two walk together if they have not met? (YLT)
Called to Complete and not to Compete. Respecting your partners gift and anointing is key. As a married couple there should not be a spirit that hinders, ridicules, criticizes, or intimidate your mate. You are on the same team! This is a partnership of tradeoffs, the strong ought to become available to the weak. We ought never to expose nor depict each others weaknesses. We are to cover one another. The world teaches us such selfish habits. When you are serving the King, King Jesus that is, we are all workers together and a work in progress. You ought to ever block each others flow. Blocking each others flow causes division and our heavenly father will never bless no mess. God's anointing on you both depends on your agreement and respect of each others gifts and talents that releases the blessing. Think about it... You would never bless one of your children if they were at odds with one another or if they were coveting or hating on each others talents and gifts. You should always rebuke and exercise the Word over the spirit of Intimidation or anything contrary to supporting your partner.
Two people called of God to see marriages and families succeed in every aspect of life.